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5 Things I’ll Never Say as a Parent

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Being a parent is a continual learning process. You make mistakes but you keep working at getting better. No one person has parenting all figured out. Each child is different. Each child is created in the image of God. Good parenting requires a healthy dose of humility, patience, and love. A parent must be humble enough to admit their own mistakes. A parent must be patient enough not to overreact, and a parent must be so full of love that it comes through in all of his or hers actions. I am far from a perfect parent, but here are a few observations I have made over the years. These are 5 things I will never say as a parent.

I spent too much time with my child – Time is a precious commodity. We live in a fast-paced culture. We have commitments to work, school, organizations, church, etc. We are also a culture obsessed with leisure. When we find a moment of rest we view this as “my time.” We turn to our own hobbies when we finally get some free time. In a culture obsessed with staying busy it is easy to neglect family. We must be purposeful when it comes to spending time with our children. We must set aside a day or an afternoon to focus on our children. We must spend time at the end of the day listening, talking, and playing with our kids. I never regret spending too much time with my son.

I said I love you too often – I do not know what my son will grow up to be or do, but I do know he will grow up knowing that I love him. The most important thing you may do as a parent is tell your child “I love you” each day. You will make mistakes as a parent and when you do your child needs to know that you are trying your best. You will have to discipline your child when they do wrong and when you do they will need to know that you care. You can never say “I love you” too much. They need to hear it when they wake up and before they go to sleep. They need to hear it when they leave the house and when they come back. Your child needs to know that everything you do for them is based on love.

I wish my child wouldn’t laugh so much – There is nothing more precious than the laughter of a little child. Children are full of so much joy. They do not see the world as we do. They are innocent. All they see is goodness. They are curious about things we have long figured out. We must encourage joy and curiosity within our children. They know how to enjoy life and we must make sure they do not lose this ability. We must play, imagine, and pretend. We must put aside our mature selves and learn to be like a child once again. When we learn to laugh with children and see the world as they do we are closer to God than we were before.

Watching TV is quality family time – A family of four staring at a screen while eating a meal is not quality family time. We live in a screen obsessed culture. In our homes we have TV screens, computer screens, video game screens, tablet screens, and phone screens. We spend most of our day staring at a screen. The last thing you should want to do as a family is stare at a screen together. We must foster community within our children. We must teach them how to interact with other human beings. We were created to live within community. We receive great joy from the company of others, but watching TV is not a communal activity. I love to read books, play games, and pretend with my son. The times that are most precious to me are the times we are actively doing something together.

Family meals are not that important – A family meal around the table is a time to slow down and process the day. It is a time to converse with each other and see what is happening in each other’s lives. Meals have been important since the beginning of the time, but sadly they are being neglected in our current culture. We now have fast food, TV dinners, and take out. An evening meal shared with family and friends is not a given anymore. Many families eat in the car or in front of a TV. Jesus thought meals were important. When he wanted to get to know someone he sat down and ate a meal with them. He stopped what he was doing and focused his attention on the people around the table. We must teach our children that they are important enough for us to turn off the TV and set down and enjoy a meal together. For a few moments out of the day we need to focus all of our attention on our family while they gathered around the table.

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2 Responses to “5 Things I’ll Never Say as a Parent”

  1. I couldn’t agree more.
    Thanks for sharing this.
    Continued success.
    Jennifer


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