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C.S. Lewis on Marriage and Love


As I was preparing for a wedding this afternoon I once again read these insightful words by C.S. Lewis. I was reminded about the love two individuals share that allows them to make it over the bumps and hurdles that all couples face. Lewis describes the kind of love two people have when they have celebrated 50 years of marriage. It is a love all couples must work at and strive for, but it is also a love only possible by the grace of God. This love begins with a twinkle in one’s eye and a funny feeling in the stomach, but it blossoms into something much more. It is a self-sacrificial love, the kind of love the apostle Paul describes in Ephesians 5. It is a love that thinks of each other as more important than one’s self.

Love as distinct from ‘being in love’ is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both partners receive from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity: the quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it. – C.S. Lewis

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